How common is a spanking fetish? I am a middle aged woman with a male friend/co-worker who keeps refering playfully to spanking me. The first several times he said it I thought for sure he was guyding but he says it so often now that I'm starting to wonder if he'd actually like to. Are there any psych buffs who may be able to tell me how common the spanking fetish might be? I know it's a common joke but I'm not sure it's a common interest. It's starting to seem like this man is serious. |
It's not at all uncommon, Sally. Plenty of people enjoy giving or receiving the occasional playful swat, of course - but quite a few are into spanking in a big way, and it sounds like your friend's probably one of them.
The crucial question, though, is - how do you feel about it? Does the idea repel you, or do you think that being spanked - at least by this particular guy - might be quite fun? If so, I'm sure he won't need much encouragement to put you over his knee - but tell him to go easy on you to begin with. |
Spanking Fetish? What do you get out of it? Tops and bottoms. Men and Women. |
| The anticapition of knowing that, that hand is coming and it's going to spank your bottom is very exciting, I enjoy the stinging pain that it brings also |
How many People have a Spanking Fetish? Anyone know the percent of people that have spanking fetishes? Like so many men, so many women etc. Also how many people participate regularly in spanking their partners. |
| I would say 100%. One way or another, everyone has an opinion on it that would be construed as a fetish. Everything is a fetish. |
How exactly does a spanking fetish or whatever you call it develop? I've had this sort of fascination with spanking ever since I was a little guy; I remember doing things like looking "spanking" up in the dictionary because it gave me a weird feeling...obviously I knew nothing about sex back then, so it wasn't something I learned watching films or anything weird like that...it was almost just something I was born with a fascination with?
Where did this come from, and how do I get rid of it? |
| Everything about a person's personality, including their likes and dislikes (and, yes, fetishes) are derived from the thousands upon thousands of memories that make up their life experience. It's impossible to track down any one "cause" for a fetish like spanking to develop. It might be as simple as a single moment in your life where you were exposed to spanking (at some point, you at least heard the word used, or you wouldn't have known to look it up) or a combination of several instances. Even if you were never spanked as a guy, you may have seen other guyren spanked or heard about it, or seen it in popular media (old movies and comic books often had such elements), or just heard the word and became curious as to its meaning when used in a way that you didn't understand. Even if one of these were true for you, that doesn't explain how your mind associated it with a fetish, rather than just a random word or action. The human mind is too complex to assign something as simple as a cause for any of its actions. Only in the case of truly traumatic events can we specifically point out a moment in a person's life as directly effecting their future behavior. |
If a person had a spanking fetish and they spanked their guys? would that qualify as abuse since they get off on spanking their guy
even if the guy truly deserved it. |
I noticed that you use the word "since" instead of "if." You're assuming, just because they have a spanking fetish, that they "get off on it" if they spank their own guys. This is a bit of a stretch.
Even if someone has a spanking fetish, there is a difference between spankings to titillate and those to discipline/punish. I've noticed that many adults that answer questions like these will automatically assume that any reference to adults spanking each other will pertain to eroticism. In truth, some adults are spanked for disciplinary purposes, such as staying on a diet or quitting smoking. These spankings aren't meant to arouse, not the spanker and not the spankee. When you give or get a spanking of this nature, you have to put that side of your mind out of the action, allowing the spanking to be given fairly and without ulterior motives.
It would be the same for spanking a guy. Even if you'd enjoy the spanking if you were giving it to a grown man or woman, you have to set that part of you aside when it's with your guy.
I am a spanko, but I'm 99% against spanking guyren. This is more because I think that most people treat spanking as a stopgap measure, and not as the focal point of a lesson given. I'm not completely against spanking guyren, though, and feel that it can have a place if administered properly and fairly. I don't think that most parents who spank do this.
If a person is "getting off" on spanking their guys, then it's obviously abuse and should be reported. If it's just a disciplinary tool, then you need to butt out, regardless of what the parents may do with each other in the bedroom. |
Were these spanking fetish perverts the same people? Zodiac O
Molly O
Ginny
Little penny
I noticed that they all asked/answered similar questions in the parenting section on spanking. Are they the same person just under different accounts? Did anyone else notice them/him/her? |
| They may be perverts,then again they just be curious about spanking.The topic is "hot" after all. |
What causes a spanking fetish? I have a spanking fetish and I hate it. Why does that turn some people on? I just want to be sexually "normal", dating is hard enough without having to find someone with the same interest or go without.
I was spanked sporadically as a guy and hated it, don't know why I developed a kink and other people don't. |
I don't think that getting spanked or not as a guy has much to do with developing a spanking fetish. Nor is a spanking fetish (necessarily) related to the Dominant/submissive pattern.
All you need to do is reconcile yourself with the way you are. Enjoying a spanking is nothing very uncommon, and nothing that does any harm (except to your bottom, temporarily). So why not embrace it? With the internet, there are so many opportunities now to indulge in spanking relationships, both cyber and real time.
So, just bend over and enjoy it. |
What causes someone to have a spanking fetish? Ever since I was little, I've had like an obsession with pain being caused to my butt? Like, when I would play doctor with my siblings, I always wanted them to act like they were giving me shots in my butt and press with the fake needle hard so it would hurt.
And then when I got older I'd daydream about getting spanked. And still now I like the idea of it.
What causes this? |
| It's natural, and very common. |
How do you get rid of a spanking fetish? Do not tell me that it's common, or that it's normal to have fetishes. I just want to know how to get rid of it. Please help. |
If you're really into spanking (or being spanked) then I doubt it's ever possible to 'get rid of it', any more than people can be 'cured' of being gay. The best you can hope for is to suppress it, though I suspect that's going to screw up your sex life. There'll always be the suppressed desire there at the back of your mind.
In any case, why on earth would you want to get rid of it? |
*adult* How do I get rid of a spanking fetish? I've had a spanking fetish for about 6 months but I can't get rid of it cause I'm only 16 and can't really find anyone to spank me, This guy I know said he would but he hasn't followed up.
What should I do?
thanks
x |
You don't really have to get rid of it, besides fetishes are hard to ignore.
Accept you have a spanking fetish, you don't have to get rid of it, even if you can't do it. |